Stream of Conciousness. And some recs.

[itsallovernow]

So far, today has been good. My rock star hair from last night carried over, and the wedding last night was beautiful. Despite being on a Thursday. At five p.m. In the ass end of wherever from where I and everyone attending lived. The place was beautiful and the bride was beautiful and the ceremony was beautiful and even a little bit funny and these are two people who are not only in love, but ready to make a life together. And I cried, which I don't normally at weddings. Certainly not when my sister got married, but part of that was because it was at 10 freaking a.m. on a Saturday and she'd had a dream that I'd ruined her hair and wouldn't talk to me and again 10 a.m. and my younger sister kept sneaking off to smoke cigarettes in the bushes with her cousin and I didn't even smoke then and I wanted to run off with them and not stand sunburned in my silver dress while the weather tried to figure out what to do and my dad looked like Don Corleone, and her dad sort of glared at everyone.

And not when my best friend got married either because we were 24 and I didn't know then that relationships were about more than liking the same music and having lots of sex and doing laundry together. I didn't know how hard they were. And so I didn't cry then, although I drank a lot of champagne and got as absurdly nostalgic as you can only get at 24 and lost my shoes and kissed a lot of boys and yelled at the same boys when they sent us home in the cleaner car and stopped at Pink's to get chili dogs and forgot that they had the house keys and we had to wait in the middle of the night for them in front of the house and I mentioned losing my shoes? So no, I didn't cry then.

But I cried a little last night, because I know now. That it's hard and tenuous and work, and something worth that work, or it should be, and you're not just marrying him, you're marrying his faults and flaws and family and he's marrying yours and somewhere in there, he's got these beautiful delusions of you and you're going to have to live up to them, just like he'll have to live up to yours, because that's just what you do.

On to the recs:

First and foremost, minervacat has written this lovely, subtle, sexy, so very sexy, entirely perfect Daniel/Vala story that just nails what they are and could be and I just, I like the analysis to describe why it's so perfect, so go forth and read and then y'all can tell her why it's perfect: You Can Buy Her Things, But She'll NEver Be Bought. I've already read it twice and it's even better the second time around.

Also, two amazing Sci-fi Friday vid mashups, by sisabet and sockkpuppett: HERE. Doctor Who (9th Doctor), BSG, and Farscape all together and they are both fantastic with entirely different flavors to them and again, themes and cuts that tell a unique story even withint the context of these three separate stories. Again, I lack adequate words, but go forth and watch and praise these incredibly talented artists.

Comments

[sophia-helix.livejournal.com]

And not when my best friend got married either because we were 24 and I didn't know then that relationships were about more than liking the same music and having lots of sex and doing laundry together.

Uh-oh.

*is 24*

*still mostly has a marriage based on liking the same stuff and doing laundry together*

I keep waiting for it to get harder. I fear having kids. *g*

[thassalia.livejournal.com]

I think, at 24, it's a great basis for a relationship. At 32, it's a great place to *start* a relationship.

I also think, when you marry relatively young (and I say this based on speculation more than anything) your ability to compromise and grow together helps immeasureably in keeping the relationship healthy and supportive.

[sophia-helix.livejournal.com]

Yeah, taking a relationship that started at 18 (for me) and making it long-term is so far from what real adults do, it's staggering to me. We're so much more focused on, as you say, growing up together, that most of the friction comes more from "grow up faster, like me!" than from "we're separate adults who need to mesh." Not that it's not frustrating at times (and 98% of the time, I'm the frustrated one), but it's a very different task.

[thassalia.livejournal.com]

The people I know who've successfully made this work took that momentum and really created a common set of goals for themselves. It'll be 8 years of marriage, 1 super cute toddler and 14 years together for my best friend and her husband in September.

[pellucid.livejournal.com]

Ah, thanks for that Daniel/Vala rec! I'd like to think that's what TPTB had in mind when they cooked up the Daniel/Vala thing, despite them not yet having executed it so well as minervacat.

[thassalia.livejournal.com]

Yeah. Isn't it a fantastic story?