To the women who allowed the groping, well, okay, that's your deal. But… why did you? The physical pleasure? Curiosity? Pressure? Shame? Joy? Know it, okay. Know why. Say to yourself why it seemed okay. Why relinquishing your space was acceptable (this is not a lecture, I'm just saying. Not a condemnation. Everyone's got a different touch/no touch system. Everyone has to know it).
I think this is one of the things that skeeved me the most about the entire thing, because that is a decision that we have to make, what we're allowing and what we want out of it, whether we're reading the situation right, what's really best for us. And that can be complicated enough without having to make snap decisions in hallways, or in the face of peer pressure. So while I don't have anything to say about the participants who came out of the situation feeling good about their decisions, because that's their choice, I also think that "they can just say no" is an idiotic argument for. And that's not even touching the issue of whether it's okay to pose the question in public, non-sexual spaces in the first place (it's not).
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Date: 2008-04-24 04:35 pm (UTC)I think this is one of the things that skeeved me the most about the entire thing, because that is a decision that we have to make, what we're allowing and what we want out of it, whether we're reading the situation right, what's really best for us. And that can be complicated enough without having to make snap decisions in hallways, or in the face of peer pressure. So while I don't have anything to say about the participants who came out of the situation feeling good about their decisions, because that's their choice, I also think that "they can just say no" is an idiotic argument for. And that's not even touching the issue of whether it's okay to pose the question in public, non-sexual spaces in the first place (it's not).