It's amazing how a guy being an asshole can make YOU feel like you've done something wrong. It's probably because my grandmother used to constantly comment on my behavior "if you chew gum, men will think you're loose." "If you were shorts, men will think you're interested." "If you whistle, men will think you're easy." All these little lessons have made it so a guy is inappropriate and I wonder what I did to give him the impression I was okay with it. What did I do that made him think I'd want him grabbing my ass, or leering at my boobs.
There's this guy at school who always hugs the girls and kisses their cheeks. It's obvious the girls don't like this. People try to avoid him. He doesn't get the message. I'm amazed how many girls don't simply say "I don't want to hug you." And then I feel like a bitch because I DO say "I don't want a hug, no offense." Sometimes I hate our society. You're "weak" if you don't stand up for yourself, and a "bitch" if you do. You can't win.
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Date: 2008-04-24 01:09 am (UTC)There's this guy at school who always hugs the girls and kisses their cheeks. It's obvious the girls don't like this. People try to avoid him. He doesn't get the message. I'm amazed how many girls don't simply say "I don't want to hug you." And then I feel like a bitch because I DO say "I don't want a hug, no offense." Sometimes I hate our society. You're "weak" if you don't stand up for yourself, and a "bitch" if you do. You can't win.