But I tend to think of sex as just one dish on the table, like, oh, mashed potatoes. I can't survive on a diet of mashed potatoes (even though my ancestors did, hah!): I also need rare steak and vegetables and a nice glass of zinfandel. And pie for dessert.

I totally agree with and buy that argument:) (I also think, truth be told, that my reading is limited in fandom and that influences my perspective in ways).